Florida Weddings & Wedding Planning Advice

Information for the Bride

You’re in the last month before the wedding. What seemed fairly simple in the beginning has now morphed into what looks like an insurrmountable, out-of-control list of things to do. You thought you were organized and now it seems there are a million details still to be conquered, accomplished, put in order. (Emphasis here is on the word “seems.” Remember this.) From your point of view it may seem that:

• No one is helping
• No one understands
• There’s too much to do
• It costs too much
• There’s not enough time
• And: Where is HE and why isn’t he helping more?

This may move into:

• Maybe this is a mistake
• Maybe I should call the whole thing off
• Maybe I just thought I loved him

Information For the Groom

Things were going pretty well. You nodded your approval at which invitations she picked out, made a list of friends and family you wanted to invite and even addressed a few.You went with her to choose the venue, select a minister, pick a D.J. or live muisic, taste cake and look at flowers. You were fitted for the tux and shoes and you’ve planned the honeymoon. Now you just need to know when and where to show up. In the meantime you can sit back, watch the game and leave the details to the women.

You begin to notice, however, that your beautiful bride-to-be is getting bossier and more short-tempered every day. She doesn’t say much but her mood seems to be getting darker and she looks at you like you’re from another planet. And you begin to wonder:

What’s the problem here?

• Is this who she really is?
• Is this what it will be like after we’re married?
• This thing is getting way out of hand.

And this begins to deteriorate into:

• This is not what I bargained for.
• Maybe I’m not ready to get married.
• Maybe she’s not the right one for me.

If it gets to this STOP, LOOK, LISTEN!

This is a time of tremendous stress for each of you. Your whole life is about to change and somewhere inside you, regardless of how much you love each other and how long you’ve been together, an alarm goes off. Change of this magnitude often creates fear and fear causes all kinds of disruption. Every tiny detail is magnified. Emotions are running like a raging river and cannot (seemingly) be contained.

So what do you do?

If you’ve been together for a number of years, you know how the other functions, and you know you love them and have made a commitment to become partners in every sense of the word. When you had a clear mind, you knew this is what you wanted. If this is not the case, then take a serious look about what you’re doing so there is not an impasse on wedding day when one of you chooses not to show up.

You know you want to continue and so:

Bride - talk to the love of your life. Tell him how you feel. Make it clear what you need him to do. He is not unwilling (generally). He just doesn’t know how to help and thinks the best thing to do is just stay out of the way. Tell him you love him and need him. Tell him what you want and need. He doesn’t intuit this. You have to tell him.

Groom - listen to her without judgment and without barking orders. Ask her how you can help. Ask her for specific instructions on how she wants it done and what the deadline is. If you do this, you may find that she relaxes and realizes that, actually, there isn’t that much for you do to do. The most important thing for you to do is

• Stay calm
• Reassure her that you love her more than anything and that
• all you want is to be married to her.

To Both of You

If every tiny detail isn’t perfect, your wedding will still be wonderful because it’s about how much you love each other and not about the tiny details.

It’s about you. Your guests will notice the love, not the color of the napkins. The guests will notice the radiance and be pleased that the flowers are nice and the music good.

Your guests will notice the look in your eyes when you see each other and really won’t care if the bridesmaids didn’t have matching shoes or perfect hairdos.

Take some time to be with each other. Just the two of you. DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE WEDDING OR WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE DURING THIS TIME. Talk about anything else. Talk about how much you love each other and how special the other is. As they say in sports, “Keep your eyes on the prize.” Soon it will all be over and you can settle into building a wonderful marriage.

Your big day has arrived. You are getting ready and suddenly trouble happens. You develop a run in your pantyhose. What do you do? Do you send a bridesmaid to a nearby store? Your mother? How can you resolve this problem without delaying the wedding?

If you have a bridal survival kit all you have to do is get your spare pair of pantyhose and your back on track to get married.

Things happen even on the most perfect of days. All the planning in the world can’t keep the little things from spoiling your special time. But there are things you can do to make your day go easier.

Purchase a small cloth bag, the kind you’d get for traveling to hold small items in your suitcase. Inside it put the following items:

1. 1 or 2 pair of pantyhose. Runs happen, especially when you’re nervous already and trying to wiggle your way into them. Having a spare pair or two will help keep snags from ruining your day.

2. Clear nail polish. If you get a run in your pantyhose high enough you might be able to stop it from going further by placing a line of clear polish below it. Clear polish is also nice for touching up your manicure if you need to.

3. A needle and thread sewing kit. You can find pre-threaded multi-colored sewing kits at fabric and craft stores. Perfect for last minute rips and tears.

4. A travel size can of hairspray. Muggy weather, wind and even a little rain can mess up a beautiful hair style. You can fix almost any style with a little hairspray and a bit of patience.

5. Tissues and wet wipes. Tissues are needed for the tears that are sure to come. Wet wipes are crucial for spills or cleaning hands.

6. Touch up makeup. The lipstick, eye shadow, and blush you plan on wearing are nice to keep with you. Smudges happen and it’s nice to be able to fix your makeup before you walk down the isle. You might want to have a bottle of foundation too, or powder, just in case too.

7. Headache medicine. The stress of getting ready and nerves have the making of a headache. Stopping a headache before it becomes full-blown will make your day nicer.

8. Gum, mints, or toothbrush and paste. No bride wants to enjoy her first kiss as wife with bad breath. And chewing gum can calm a nervous bride down before the ceremony.

9. A small pair of scissors to clip stray strings or trim a hangnail.

10. Safety pins in different sizes. Rips and tears can happen, and when time is of the essence, using a safety pin to close the tear might be easier than sewing it.

11. A few bobby pins in case of hair disasters. Bobby pins are great for keeping the veil in place too.

12. Small first aid kit. Cuts and scrapes can happen and taking care of it before the ceremony will keep you from having an infection later on. Or getting blood on your beautiful wedding dress.

13. Tampons or napkins. Stress can bring on a menstrual period even if it’s not your time. Being prepared is better than being surprised.

You want your wedding day to run smooth. But there is no guarantee it will. By being prepared with a few emergency supplies, your day will be a wonderful day.

About the Author

Dawn Arkin is a writer who loves to plan and attend weddings. This article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.Prye.Com/ which is a site for Wedding Invitations.

We all know that brides spend hours, days, and weeks searching for the perfect wedding gown, so it should come as no surprise that what she wears underneath the gown attracts just as much of her attention. If there is a special time to shed white plain jane panties and bras and slip into something sheer, sexy, and magnificent, it has got to be your wedding night. Hey, it only happens once in a marriage! Make it count! So you should be sure to put just as much effort into what your wear under your dress as you do choosing your dress. You won’t regret it, and neither will your future mate.

Thankfully, most of the bustiers and corsets that are designed to be worn underneath a wedding dress are sexy in themselves. They provide the lift and support you will need to look, and feel, your absolute best. And you should, because it is your day. After the day is over, you can go slip out of your dress and be ready for your night, without having to take time to slip into something else.

You can start looking for your bridal lingerie only after you have selected your dress. It must be compatible with your gown. Nothing should poke or peak out from underneath your dress, that’s for you and your future husband’s eyes only! So that’s just one more reason to be on top of things. When you start looking, you will want to go to specialty lingerie shops, where the selection is wider and of a higher quality than typical department stores. The people who work at these shops will be able to better help you as well, since they are experts in fitting lingerie and working with gowns.

If you have chosen a wedding gown that is strapless or one that sets off of your shoulders, you cannot wear a strapless bra. Luckily for you, this is exactly the situation for which the bustier was designed. Bustiers are sort of like strapless bras that are attached to a fabric that wraps around your torso. If your dress is completely backless, you cannot use a bustier, but must choose a different alternative. If you are a C cup or less, look into the adhesive Nu Bra, which looks real and provides ample support. If you are bustier than a C cup, you will have to use a strapless bra that connects around your waist.

When choosing your bridal panties, choose a fabric that is comfortable to you. Some brides opt to knock panties and bra out with one punch by choosing a one piece lingerie shaper. Doing so will also shape your stomach, making you look svelte.

The last thing that you need to choose for your wedding lingerie is your hosiery. If you decide to do full hose, make sure that it fits well and does not cause any discomfort or bulging. The best thing to wear, though, and the most fun, is stockings with a garter. Whatever hosiery you decide on, make sure that the fabric is premium quality so that it doesn’t tear or snag. It’s best to buy an extra set, just in case.